In our culture, we fuse blame and holding to account at the same time. A mistake is often seen as a sign of a great defectiveness.
Have you ever found yourself knowing you can achieve more but get stuck. Perhaps you’ve been in a business or team where the same has happened. Growth traps can hold us back personally, in our careers, and in the businesses we are in from meeting our potential.
Perhaps you are ready for:
If we can take away our Growth Traps – beliefs in ourselves, habits, the way we communicate, the way we express feelings, and much more, we are released to meet our potential.
One Book I have found has really changed my attitude to situations is Leadership and the Art of Self-Deception from The Arbinger Institute. It’s about breaking out of the vicious circle in conflict or when we feel something is ‘unfair’. We end up sitting ‘in the box’ of self-justification and seeing the other as an object. To break out of this we need to break ‘out of the box’.
“We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.”
Brene Brown
We might wish to show emotions but often they can be held back. THis might be because we don’t want to create conflict with another person if we showed how we truly felt. Here’s a list of reasons – which ones do you do, and which ones do your partner or even boss show?