Setting boundaries is an important element to deciding how we react to people. (Alasko, Say This, Not That) Building a healthy boundary system yields the following positive results:

1. You’ll be able to tolerate your own anxiety and not allow it to push you into making life-changing decisions. You won’t say yes to things that work against your own best interests.
2. You’ll more easily tolerate other people’s anxiety or pain when you need to slow them down—or stop something going on between you and them altogether.
3. You won’t invade other people’s spaces and create stress in your relationships. That’s important, because stressful relationships don’t last—or if they do, they create chronic unhappiness.