We have particular standard patterns dependent on our attitudes to the world. You may think are ‘the right way’ but there are alternatives. What views of the world and the way it works for you, do you have?
Dealing with Blame and Responsibility
Are you ready to break your Growth Traps?
Have you ever found yourself knowing you can achieve more but get stuck. Perhaps you’ve been in a business or team where the same has happened. Growth traps can hold us back personally, in our careers, and in the businesses we are in from meeting our potential.
Perhaps you are ready for:
- A career progression
- A new job
- A better relationship with your current partner
- A new relationship
- Growing your business / Team
- Meeting growth, revenue or services targets for your team
- Starting a new business
- Breaking an old habit
- Breaking through a crisis
- Tackling a compulsive habit
If we can take away our Growth Traps – beliefs in ourselves, habits, the way we communicate, the way we express feelings, and much more, we are released to meet our potential.
Getting the Right Attitude
One Book I have found has really changed my attitude to situations is Leadership and the Art of Self-Deception from The Arbinger Institute. It’s about breaking out of the vicious circle in conflict or when we feel something is ‘unfair’. We end up sitting ‘in the box’ of self-justification and seeing the other as an object. To break out of this we need to break ‘out of the box’.
Why might I not express my emotions?
“We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.”
Brene Brown
We might wish to show emotions but often they can be held back. THis might be because we don’t want to create conflict with another person if we showed how we truly felt. Here’s a list of reasons – which ones do you do, and which ones do your partner or even boss show?