“The negative view of self denies others the gift of oneself”
James Hollis, author
When we don’t have confidence, we can fall into the following pit falls, from Dr Robert Anthony’s book on the ‘Ultimate Secrets of Self Confidence“
How to Feel More Confident
From Paul McKenna’s book – Instant Confidence
Gaining the Posture of Champions
- See a cord in your body that pulls up the head, body, and back
- Stand upright, and let it pull you up when you go through a door
- Visualise one successful experience
- Now think of someone who loves you and notice the feelings
- Compliment yourself
- With that confident feeling touch a part of you (e.g. a finger) when you feel it and repeat until when you touch that part of the body, your body and mind goes back to that experience (confidence switch)
- Anchor on a past positive experience
- Think of a new experience and imagine them going well
Posture of Power
- Find a point one inch below the navel and in the centre of the body
- Place a hand there – on the “one point”
- Think of a bad situation and focus on that one spot
Circle of Excellence
This allows you to get confidence before an event.
- Imagine there is a circle in front of you
- Standing outside decide what state of mind you want to be in, when you are ready for an event. Then “Remember a time when you were [insert your exact words] … go back to it… see what you saw then, hear what you heard
- Step inside the circle – and relive that experience. When the feeling is most intense then make the circle around you with your fingers
- Step back out and repeat with the future state. Think of a time when this state will be most useful
- Get into the circle and ask what the future state feels like, what you see and what you hear Now step out of the circle. And come back into the normal state
Building Instant confidence
- What would your posture be if you had confidence?
- How would your voice sound?
- What would you picture in your mind?
- Imagine a slightly more confident you in front of you – now step into that.
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