There are several views about our core needs (e.g. Tony Robbins list of 6 core needs). Typically there seems to be between 5 and 7.
|Core Need||Key Question||Examples||Where do I get that now|
|Security||Who can I trust?||Spouse / Partner
|Identity||Who am I?||Accountant
|Belonging||Who wants me?
|Purpose||Why am I alive?
|As a mother
|Competence||What do I do well?
|Growth||What am I learning?
|What do I enjoy?|
This is quite high level, and often anger comes from when our core needs are not met or threatened. John Grey sees different priorities of needs for Men and Women:
John Grey in Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus puts it as:
|Men (from Mars) need:
|Women (from Venus) need:
What are your top needs?
These are a list of primary or core needs from (Mike Fisher, Beating Anger). Which ones relate to you and any significant other. How do you/they react if they are threatened?