The starting point is to take stock of where you are now. There will be surface issues you want to deal with. This will help set the context of everything else. Often, though, to solve the surface thing, you need to address the deep thing. And to solve one thing you might need to fix something else in a completely different area.
The big thing is that ‘No one, absolutely no one has to do anything; the choice is always yours’. This is the first law of psychological reactance: if someone tells you to do something, you probably won’t feel like doing it, even if you might otherwise have wanted to. In fact, the harder the other person tries to get you to do something – the more he yells at you, insists, threatens you with dire consequences – the less you’re going to want to do it, and the less likely you are to actually do it. (Michael Pantelon, Instant Influence). So only you will change, it you want to make the change. You can either put effort into changing or resisting. Which is likely to have more result?
The Wheel of life: Taking Stock of where you are
Look at the 11 areas below and score yourself on a scale of 0-10 on where you are on each of these:
|Area of interest||5 Years Ago(scale 1-10)||Now
|5 Years’ Time||What do you want to change?|
|Family (& kids)|
|Try this online – Wheel of Life Assessment|
Now decide what are the first three things to work on