What values would you like in life, not just the ones you have already been given? What would you like more of or work towards? Is it love, or success? Do you desire respect or being valued? Sacred values are ones that are core to your identity, and you can’t trade. You feel angry or it feels insulting if they are breached. Let’s find what your values are.
Finding your values
(Based on Tony Robbins – See his 20 minute video)
Grab a pencil and look at the list of example values below. What would you place as your most important now, and continue down to the 10th most important? There’s space to add your own values to the list if nothing quite fits for you. Getting the list is quite easy, but I found I spent much of an hour then sorting them in order. Is adventure more import than health? For the pursuit of pleasure – values that you would move towardsSo, that’s the positive stuff. It’s what you’d work towards. What might be the values you work away from? For example, it might be confrontation. You may hate loud voices, or it might be a fear of failure. What would this list in order, for you, and feel free to add other values in that list? Getting away from pain – values that you try to move away from Well your time is nearly over.
- How does that list look like, or sound like to you?
- Are those the values you want to have, or what you used to have?
If you had difficulty in finding your values or prioritising, then this NLP technique and video can help.
Listing your values
Now you have looked at the values let’s summarise and sort them by ‘towards’ values. these are things you pursue, and ‘away from’ values, which you shy away from. When you look at this list, are there any values that have been limiting you. For example, are there any ‘away from’ values that have affected elements of your wheel of life (Page 14)such as relationships, career, or family? It could be that a fear of public speaking has meant that you didn’t really go for or accept promotions at work. A fear of confrontation may mean that issues simmer in a relationship and not get worked out. Are there any towards values that have resulted in you doing things you don’t want to. For example, ‘belonging’ might mean that you did things with your friends that weren’t healthy or legal but that belonging trumped the value of honesty.
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